Too soon to tell...
People have been asking me whether I will marry my boyfriend. Well, all I can say is that we might get married one day. I love him and would get married, but I don't think we're ready for that just yet. To get married to a person, I think you should date for a long period of time to make sure you are absolutely compatible. I am not one to contribute to the rising divorce rate!
Compatibility isn't the reason I hesitate though. I, honestly, don't want to get married and be widowed at an early age...
Okay, let me explain. My boyfriend and I are pretty extreme when it comes to the outdoors. We like to do things that some people might call "crazy." I, on the other hand, think participating in these activities keeps us sane! (Damn city life...) We absolutely love each other, but I don't want to get married until we've done things such as attempt Denali, he's tried climbing Mount Everest and maybe even Vincent Massif. The latter two he'll have to try without me while I wait at base camp. We watch out for one another when we go out there, but on these attempts, to watch out for him means staying behind. I really believe I am capable, but I don't want to put him into any danger by having him waste time and energy worrying about me in case an emergency arises. These peaks are wearisome enough without having to attend to another person's welfare! I'd rather wait to increase his chances of survival so he can fend for himself and come back to me safely.
What I'm trying to say is that these mountains are dangerous...very dangerous and casualty rates are high. I don't want to get married, have a baby or two and have to raise them alone. Don't get me wrong though, this doesn't mean we're going to give up our extreme outdoors life if we do get married! We'll still go on long kayaking expeditions in Alaska, backpack in 3rd world countries, bag some of the Seven Summits, and explore the world -- we just won't do anything where the death rate is extraordinarily high. Heck, we'll even take the kids! It's just that I don't want to take certain chances until we've gotten some things out of our system.
I love him to death -- literally.
Compatibility isn't the reason I hesitate though. I, honestly, don't want to get married and be widowed at an early age...
Okay, let me explain. My boyfriend and I are pretty extreme when it comes to the outdoors. We like to do things that some people might call "crazy." I, on the other hand, think participating in these activities keeps us sane! (Damn city life...) We absolutely love each other, but I don't want to get married until we've done things such as attempt Denali, he's tried climbing Mount Everest and maybe even Vincent Massif. The latter two he'll have to try without me while I wait at base camp. We watch out for one another when we go out there, but on these attempts, to watch out for him means staying behind. I really believe I am capable, but I don't want to put him into any danger by having him waste time and energy worrying about me in case an emergency arises. These peaks are wearisome enough without having to attend to another person's welfare! I'd rather wait to increase his chances of survival so he can fend for himself and come back to me safely.
What I'm trying to say is that these mountains are dangerous...very dangerous and casualty rates are high. I don't want to get married, have a baby or two and have to raise them alone. Don't get me wrong though, this doesn't mean we're going to give up our extreme outdoors life if we do get married! We'll still go on long kayaking expeditions in Alaska, backpack in 3rd world countries, bag some of the Seven Summits, and explore the world -- we just won't do anything where the death rate is extraordinarily high. Heck, we'll even take the kids! It's just that I don't want to take certain chances until we've gotten some things out of our system.
I love him to death -- literally.
posted by VeritableReverie | 7/28/2005 04:23:00 PM
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